Modesty: More Than What We Wear

There are a lot of people..and a lot of blogs that talk about Christian women and what we should and shouldn’t wear when it comes to dressing modestly. It is a very controversial topic. You have people saying that we still don’t need to be showing our ankles, and then you have other people who say that “modesty is outdated,” or “times have changed.”


But I really don’t want to get into the discussion of whether wearing a bikini or mini skirt is appropriate or not. Because the fact of the matter is that there is a bigger picture here that I think people are forgetting. While yes, the times, culture, and clothes have changed, the Word of our Lord has never changed.


Modesty is more than what we wear- it defines who we are.


Let’s be real. Every girl knows when she is purposefully dressing to attract attention from men. Any woman who says she doesn’t realize it, is lying. Of course there are always going to be those times when some guy whistles at you when you’re wearing sweats and not trying to impress anyone at all. That’s just the nature of sin. But I’m talking about when you purposefully set out in your heart to dress in a way that attracts lustful attention. I will be the first to ashamedly say that I have done it myself. I have had to examine my real intentions behind what I was wearing, and not lie to myself and say that it was fine. I have to be honest, look at my wandering heart, and tell myself, no. I have had to realize that modesty is not about what I am wearing, it’s about my heart.


I hear so many girls talk about how it’s not their fault if guys are creepy, and that they should have the freedom to wear what they want. But the thing is-it doesn’t matter who’s “fault it is” when we all stand at the day of judgment. Every person will be held accountable for their own sin. The woman for her immodest heart, and the man for his.



2 Corinthians 6:3-13 tells us- “We put no obstacle in anyone’s way, so that no fault may be found with our ministry, but as servants of God we commend ourselves in every way: by great endurance, in afflictions, hardships, calamities, beatings, imprisonments, riots, labors, sleepless nights, hunger; by purity, knowledge, patience, kindness, the Holy Spirit, genuine love; by truthful speech, and the power of God; with the weapons of righteousness for the right hand and for the left.” As a woman going into ministry, I want it to be said of me that I did not put obstacles in people’s way by what I said, or did, or my clothing. We must all strive to live lives that people cannot find fault in. We must try everyday to look in the mirror and see Christ Jesus.


Romans 3:14 says, “But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires.” If our heart is truly in sync with the Father’s, then we will know when we are wearing something that we shouldn’t be. There will be a check in our Spirit that tells us that what we are doing isn’t right. We should not be trying to gain attention from men and gratify our sinful desires.  But we should be seeking to put on the Lord Jesus as the clothing of our hearts and mind, to leave no room for sinful desires to creep in.


In this day and age- Christian women cannot afford to be careless when it comes to decisions on what we wear. We need to be intentionally looking out for our brothers in Christ, given the world we live in. We should make the choice NOT wear something that would cause them to stumble, rather than passively wearing whatever “looks cute” and not thinking about the spiritual repercussions of our actions. Because we WILL be held responsible for being careless with the body that God has given us.


One of my favorite verses is Proverbs 11:22 which states, “Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout is a beautiful woman without discretion.” As this verses clearly states, as women we MUST have discretion. But especially when it comes to our bodies and what we wear.


1 Corinthians 6:19-20 states,” Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.” This commandment to honor God with our bodies is not implying a passive action. It is a choice. We are called to not be a stumbling block.


Matthew 5:27-28 says, “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”


As women of God, I want us to really think about this verse for a moment. Better yet. Go back and read it a second time.


Why in the world do we take modesty so very lightly? As I said before, every man and woman will be held responsible for their own sin. In no way am I trying to say that every time a man looks at you lustfully that it’s your fault. The man will have to take responsibility for that as well. But how sad is it to think that when we don’t use discretion and we carelessly dress immodestly, or even worse, when we intentionally dress immodestly, that we could potentially cause a fellow brother to stumble into lustful sin? I know, I’s not our problem, it’s the guys deal..right? Wrong. It is our problem because as Christians, we are called to higher standards.


We must, with the Lord as our guide, help the men of this generation to seek after Him above all else. 

We must be enablers (and not stumbling blocks) towards advancing the kingdom of God! 

We are all in this together. Male and female alike. We have to be. As one body of Christ in the battle against Satan. 


I believe that is about all I needed to say. Just some thoughts that have been rolling around in my head the past few days. I hope that something I have said will come as a challenge for you, and that you can somehow apply these Biblical truths into your everyday life.


God bless, and have a wonderful 2014!

Abbey Nicole








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